ABOUT LITTLE YELLOW FLAGS
What if you could side-step your next traumatic relationship, your next vampire friend, or your next rip-off?
Learn to identify, interpret, and respond to little yellow flags to quickly and accurately discern someone's intentions. Stay true to your intuition and your character while also protecting yourself from bad actors.
TRAITS OF A YELLOW FLAG
I just met them.
Yellow flags arise from lack of context. You notice a behavior or comment from someone, but you don't have the history to know if this is just a one-off, or if this is a pattern.
I'm conflicted about it.
Yellow flags are not identifiable as clearly abnormal or inappropriate behavior. Things like being rude to waitstaff, or calling all their ex's crazy, are red flags. A true yellow flag makes the observer feel conflicted about their own feelings.
It's not a preference.
Disliking dogs, loving ska, or being a morning person isn't a yellow flag. A yellow flag is a single instance of interaction between you and someone you've recently met that wasn't expected and confuses you.
WHY WE IGNORE THEM
I don't see it.
We can learn about red flags from others, but we only internalize yellow flags from experience. We're less likely to talk about them because they're harder to explain. This leaves us blind to many kinds of yellow flags.
I don't want to be judgemental.
When someone triggers our suspicion, we immediately imagine all the legitimate reasons for their behavior. By definition, yellow flags could be completely innocent. We don't want to feel like we're judging someone too early.
I don't know how to respond to it.
Even when we see the yellow flag for what it is, most advice seems like an over-reaction. We're not sure what to do, so we do nothing.
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